Wisdom That Comes When You Care For Others & Yourself

If you grew up primera generación,

you probably didn’t get to just ser niño.

You stepped in—early.

At the store.

At the clinic.

On the phone with la compañía de luz.

Translating. Navigating. Figuring things out. Knowing what needed to get done.

You were there for your parents

in ways most people will never understand.

And you did it out of love.

Instinct.

Supervivencia.

Maybe you were el mayor.

Maybe el del medio.

Or the quiet little one

who still carried the weight.

Whatever your role—

you showed up.

That kind of responsibility shapes you.

You learn to always saber.

To be ready and know.

To carry the answers before anyone asks the questions.

Because when you didn’t know…

they didn’t know.

And that could bring fear or disappointment.

So you made it your job to saberlo todo.

But now—

you get to do something different.

You get to lay that burden down.

Está bien no saber.

It’s okay not to know.

Not knowing isn’t failing.

It’s part of learning.

It’s part of becoming.

It’s part of trusting that you can figure things out—

paso a paso.

You honored your parents then.

Now, honor yourself.

Take a breath.

Be still.

Learn slowly.

Walk gently into the unknown.

You’re not reacting anymore.

You’re responding.

And now…

it continues.

Not with documents or signatures—

but with citas médicas, check-ins, quiet prayers,

and sitting beside them when they feel vulnerable.

You’re still there for them.

But not from panic.

Not from pressure.

Now, it’s from presencia.

From love matured by time.

From the wisdom that comes when you care for others

and yourself.

You don’t carry it the same way anymore.

You’ve grown.

You’ve softened.

You’ve rooted.

You are still their puente.

But now—

you’re also your own hogar.

That’s más.

That’s sanando desde adentro —healing from the inside.

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¿Cómo estás cuidando a los demás… sin dejarte atrás?

How are you caring for others—without leaving yourself behind?

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This reflection is part of my ongoing work through My Auténtico Self Coaching —where we explore identity, healing, and leadership from the inside out.

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